THE SOFT CHOOSING
12-WEEK PRIVATE 1:1 MENTORING
From Self-Abandonment to
Authorship
A guided experience for sensitive women who are ready to understand themselves more deeply, become more fully themselves, and begin making choices from a place that feels like their own.
You don't need to become less sensitive.
You don't need to become harder or louder.
You don't need to become someone else.
You may simply need more space to grow into yourself
A NOTE FROM ME
Sensitive women often become very good at understanding everyone else.
We notice.
We anticipate.
We make room.
We think things through.
And somewhere along the way, we can lose touch with what is happening inside us — including the parts of ourselves that are asking to be known, trusted and developed.
The Soft Choosing grew from a simple question:
What changes when you learn to include yourself in the care you so naturally give to others?
Over twelve weeks, I guide you through a structured but deeply personal process of getting to know yourself, staying with yourself, and bringing more of yourself into the life you're living.
WHAT IF YOU COULD CHOOSE WITHOUT LEAVING YOURSELF BEHIND?
Perhaps you say yes when you mean no.
You understand everyone's perspective so well that you can't find your own.
You make the sensible choice, but something in you feels quietly absent.
You overthink decisions because you're afraid of getting them wrong.
You hold back your opinions, needs, ambition, or desires.
You take responsibility for things that were never entirely yours to carry.
Or perhaps you simply have the feeling that there is more of you waiting to be lived.
More of your voice
More of your knowing
More of your creativity, sensitivity, intuition or particular way of seeing
THE SOFT CHOOSING
The Soft Choosing isn't about becoming selfish, detached, or impulsive.
It is about learning how to remain connected to yourself while being in relationship with everything around you
And allowing more of what is already within you to have a place in your life.
A NOTE ON AUTHORSHIP
AUTHORSHIP
Authorship isn't about controlling your life.
It isn't about always knowing what to do, never doubting yourself, or putting yourself first at everyone else's expense.
It is the quieter experience of knowing:
I have a place in my own life
My thoughts matter
My needs matter
My perspectives matter
My gifts matter
My boundaries matter
My future matters
My desires matter
My way of knowing matters
I can love someone and still make my own choices...
I can listen to others without handing them the final say.
I can love someone and still choose.
I can disappoint someone and remain a good person.
I can change my mind.
I can want more.
I can develop the parts of myself that want more room.
THE SHIFT
The shift is from
living in response to life
to participating in creating it
HOW WE'LL WORK TOGETHER
THIS IS A
GUIDED EXPERIENCE
The Soft Choosing isn't a course you move through alone.
And it isn't open-ended mentoring where we simply talk about whatever happens to be happening.
It Sits Somewhere in Between
There is a clear framework and a meaningful progression.
But the work is personal
I guide you through the process, while what we explore is shaped by,
YOU
your relationships, decisions, work, money, boundaries, desires, patterns, questions, and the things you are becoming aware of along the way.
Think of it as a structured space
to grow into yourself
THE JOURNEY
Over twelve weeks, we move through three chapters
CHAPTER ONE
BE KNOWN
TO YOURSELF
Understand who you are beneath the versions of you you've learned to be.
We explore your sensitivity, your inner voice, your patterns, your needs and desires, and the gifts and ways of perceiving that are particular to you
01/12
The Strength of Your Sensitivity
Understand how your sensitivity shapes the way you notice, process, connect and respond — including the gifts that can come with perceiving the world this way.
A note from my desk
We begin by noticing how sensitivity actually works in you
How we move
NOTICE
Inside the envelope
The Sensitivity Map
Something to return to when you want to understand yourself more clearly
02/12
Learning to Listen to Yourself
Begin distinguishing your own voice from expectation, conditioning, fear and the opinions of others — and notice the quieter forms of knowing that may already be speaking.
A note from my desk
Your own voice can be quiet. We make room to hear it before deciding what to do with what it says
How we move
NOTICE
DISCERN
Inside the envelope
The Inner Voice Map
Something to return to when you need to hear yourself more clearly
03/12
The Version You Learned to Be
Explore the versions of yourself you became to belong, cope, be loved, or keep things steady — and begin noticing what parts of you may have been left behind.
A note from my desk
Not every version of you that helped you belong, still needs to lead your life.
How we move
UNDERSTAND
SEPARATE
Inside the envelope
The Pattern Loop
Something to return to when an old pattern begins to feel like who you are.
04/12
How You Experience Connection
Understand what happens to your sense of self when you're close to, apart from, or in conflict with another person.
A note from my desk
We look at what happens to you in connection — not simply what happens between you and someone else
How we move
UNDERSTAND
SEPARATE
Inside the envelope
The Connection Map
Something to return to when connection begins to blur your sense of yourself
CHAPTER TWO
BE THERE
FOR YOURSELF
​Learn what it means to stay with yourself when life becomes emotionally complicated.
We work with feelings, self-doubt, responsibility, trust and the everyday moments where self-abandonment can quietly happen.
We also create the inner steadiness needed to hear yourself clearly — especially when your feelings, intuition, desires and other people's expectations seem to be pulling in different directions.
05/12
Staying With What You Feel
​Learn to honour your feelings without automatically suppressing, fixing, explaining, or acting from them.
A note from my desk
A feeling can be real without needing to become a decision
How we move
NOTICE
Inside the envelope
The Feeling → Response Map
Something to return to when a feeling asks for your attention
06
Showing Up for Yourself
Build the experience of becoming someone you can rely on in the small, everyday moments.
A note from my desk
Self-trust grows through what you practise, not only through what you understand
How we move
MOULD
Inside the envelope
The Self-Reliance Practice
Something to return to when you want to practise being there for yourself
07/12
When Self-Doubt Takes Over
Learn to think carefully without automatically assuming that you're wrong — and begin noticing when you're second-guessing something you already know.
A note from my desk
Thinking something through and doubting yourself are not always the same thing
How we move
DISCERN
Inside the envelope
The Doubt / Knowing Tool
Something to return to when uncertainty starts speaking louder than your own knowing
08/12
Knowing What Is Yours to Carry
Begin separating caring from carrying, and supporting from taking responsibility for someone else's experience.
A note from my desk
You can care deeply without making someone else's experience yours to carry
How we move
SEPARATE
Inside the envelope
The Carrying Check
Something to return to when care begins to feel like responsibility
CHAPTER THREE
BE MORE
OF YOURSELF
​Let more of who you are have a place in the life you're creating.
We move from understanding yourself to expressing yourself — in your choices, relationships, work, desires and the way you take up space.
09/12
Trusting What You Know
Explore intuition, inner knowing and the quieter signals you may have learned to second-guess — and begin developing a more trusting relationship with what you perceive.
A note from my desk
Not all knowing arrives as certainty. Sometimes it arrives as a quiet sense that you keep noticing
How we move
DISCERN
Inside the envelope
The Knowing Practice
Something to return to when you want to listen beneath the noise
10/12
Let Yourself Be Seen
Make more room for your opinions, needs, sensitivity, ambition, gifts and desires to exist without constant editing.
A note from my desk
Being seen begins with allowing yourself to exist without editing every part of yourself first
How we move
PARTICIPATE
Inside the envelope
The Visibility Practice
Something to return to when you notice yourself making yourself smaller
11/12
Making Life Your Own
Look at the life you're actually living — work, money, relationships, time, environment and priorities — and ask what feels true now, including what wants to grow.
A note from my desk
Your life doesn't have to look right from the outside. It has to become increasingly yours
How we move
MOULD
PARTICIPATE
Inside the envelope
The Soft Choice
Something to return to whenever you need to make a choice that feels more like your own
12/12
Growing Into You
Notice what has changed, what you know now, what you notice sooner, and what parts of yourself have begun asking for more room.
A note from my desk
You don't have to arrive at a finished version of yourself. You can keep growing into what feels more fully yours
How we move
PARTICIPATE
Inside the envelope
The Returning-to-You Reflection
Something to return to whenever you need to find your way back to yourself
This isn't about arriving at a finished version of yourself.
It is about becoming more fully the person you already have the beginnings of within you.
THE SOFT CHOOSING METHOD
There is a way we move through the work together
NOTICE
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See what is happening without immediately trying to change it.
UNDERSTAND
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Meet your patterns with curiosity rather than shame.
SEPARATE
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Distinguish what belongs to you from what you've learned to carry.
DISCERN
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Listen beneath fear, assumption, conditioning and expectation for what is actually true.
MOULD
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Give what you've discovered shape through choices, boundaries, relationships and action.
PARTICIPATE
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Bring yourself fully into the life you are creating.
AN INVITATION TO THE NOOK
There is a quiet place within The Soft Choosing that we return to each week.
The Nook
Leave the pace of everything else at the door
A private space for our conversations — away from the demands of everything else, where you can slow down enough to hear yourself.
Our conversations may happen in person or privately online, depending on what we arrange together.
HOW OUR TIME TOGETHER UNFOLDS
01
WE BEGIN BY ARRIVING
Before we begin talking, we take a few moments to settle.
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A simple breathwork practice helps you step out of the pace of your day and come into the room — and back into yourself
02
WE EXPLORE WHAT IS HERE
Our conversation follows the work we are exploring that week.
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We might look at something you are beginning to notice, a pattern you are learning to understand, something you are struggling to trust, a relationship that is asking something of you, or a choice you are learning to make for yourself.
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There is room to talk, think, feel, question and be met.
03
WE WORK WITH WHAT NEEDS TENDING
When something needs more than conversation, we work with it together.
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This might be EFT, a nervous-system practice, or another practice that feels right for what is present that day.
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These aren't exercises waiting for you on a worksheet.
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They are practices we experience together.
04
YOU LEAVE WITH SOMETHING TO CARRY
Before we close, we gather what matters.
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You may leave with a reflection, a practice, a question, or a small way of being with yourself through the week ahead.
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Something simple enough to live with.
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Something that keeps the work moving between our conversations.
05
WE CLOSE GENTLY
We don't rush towards an ending simply because the conversation has reached a particular point.
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Some conversations need more room. Others find their natural close sooner.
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We give the work the space it needs while keeping the rhythm of our time together.
You arrive
You are met
You explore
You practice
You leave with something that belongs to you
A GLIMPSE OF WHAT MAY CHANGE
WHAT MAY BEGIN
TO FEEL DIFFERENT
Not because you become someone else
Because more of you has room to be here
YOU MAY BEGIN TO NOTICE MORE EASILY
hearing your own voice more clearly
noticing your intuition and inner signals sooner
noticing self-abandonment sooner
staying with difficult feelings without immediately acting on them
recognising the gifts that come naturally to you
trusting yourself without needing absolute certainty
YOU MAY BEGIN TO RELATE MORE CONFIDENTALY
caring about others without carrying everything for them
making room for needs and desires you've pushed aside
expressing yourself without editing quite so much
​setting boundaries without becoming hard
YOU MAY BEGIN TO CHOOSE MORE FREELY
taking your work, money and ambitions more seriously
developing parts of yourself you've previously kept small
making decisions that feel more like yours
allowing yourself to be seen
And perhaps, eventually—
feeling more at home in the life you're creating.
PERHAPS YOU'LL RECOGNISE YOURSELF HERE
THIS MAY
BE FOR YOU IF…
You're sensitive, thoughtful and deeply aware of other people
You understand yourself intellectually,
but still find yourself disappearing
in certain situations.
You want to trust yourself
without becoming impulsive.
You want to understand your intuition without turning every feeling into a message.
You want boundaries
without becoming cold.
You want to care
without losing yourself in the caring.
You sense there are gifts, qualities or parts of yourself you haven't fully grown into yet.
You want to take your desires, work,
money or ambition seriously.
You want to be more visible without becoming someone you're not.
FROM
UNDERSTANDING
YOURSELF
TO LIVING
FROM THAT
UNDERSTANDING
THIS IS NOT ABOUT BECOMING...
Less sensitive
Less caring
More detached
Completely certain
Perfectly healed
Unaffected by other people
Someone who never doubts herself
Turning intuition into certainty, or every feeling into something you have to act on.
It is about becoming more able to remain with yourself while life happens
To have a voice
without needing to dominate
To be connected
without disappearing
To be soft
without abandoning yourself
To grow
without becoming someone else
HOW TO BEGIN
IF YOU'RE CURIOUS ABOUT BEGINNING
There’s no pressure to know exactly what you need before you reach out.
01
ENQUIRE
Tell me about yourself
A short enquiry form gives you space to share what’s bringing you here. I’ll read it and consider whether The Soft Choosing feels like the right fit for you.
02
TALK
We’ll have a conversation
If it feels like there may be a fit, we’ll have a short conversation to meet, ask questions, and see how it feels and if the work makes sense for you.
03
BEGIN
We decide together
If it feels like a yes for both of us, I’ll walk you through the next steps and we’ll choose a time to begin your twelve weeks together.
A GENTLE NOTE
Clicking “Begin” isn't a commitment to work together.
It's simply a way to start a conversation.
You don't need to arrive with everything figured out. You can ask questions, take your time, and decide whether this feels right for you.
THE INVESTMENT
₹70,000
12 weeks of private 1:1 mentoring
For the woman who is ready to spend some time with herself
A deeply personalised mentoring experience to understand yourself, learn to hold yourself with greater steadiness, build self-trust, and begin choosing and shaping your life from a place of greater clarity.
WHEN WE MEET
THE CONVERSATIONS
12 private, untimed conversations
Each conversation is given the space to unfold naturally, with no fixed time limit.
WHEN WE WORK
THE PRACTICE
​Personalised tools & invitations
The Soft Choosing Method, along with reflections, questions and approaches to help bring what we're exploring together into practice.
WHEN LIFE CONTINUES
BETWEEN CONVERSATIONS
​A brief WhatsApp connection
A brief WhatsApp connection when something arises, so you don't have to hold it until our next conversation.
THE INVESTMENT
₹70,000 — paid in full
₹70,000 — in three instalments
₹34,000 — to begin your journey
₹18,000 — after 4 weeks
₹18,000 — after 8 weeks
There is no rush in deciding
Take some time with what you've read
WHEN YOU'RE READY
BEGIN
THE SOFT CHOOSING
​EPILOGUE
AND IF YOU'D LIKE TO CONTINUE…
The Soft Choosing is a beginning
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After your twelve weeks, you may feel ready to carry the work forward on your own
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Or you may want a little more space to keep exploring what comes next
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If you'd like to continue working together, there are two ways to do that
For a little more space to keep exploring what comes next...
GENTLE DEEPENING
ONGOING 1:1 MENTORING
A more open-ended space for the next chapter.
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We work with what is alive in your life now — relationships, work, money, decisions, boundaries, patterns, desires, or simply the things you're continuing to grow into.
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There is no set programme.
Or, if there is simply one thing you'd like somewhere to bring....
QUIET CONVERSATION
A SINGLE 1:1 CONVERSATION
For when you don't need ongoing mentoring, but you'd like somewhere to bring one particular thing.
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A decision.
A relationship.
A question.
A feeling you can't quite place.
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One quiet conversation to slow down, untangle what is happening, and hear yourself more clearly.