• Nikita Vyas

How to be Confident when you no longer feel Confident?

Does this sound anything like you?

Has there been a time or a moment when you felt as if confidence was sucked out of you never to return?


“I have to make this presentation in front of so many people! I don’t think I can do this!”

“I’m trying to launch this new product/service/company and I just can’t go ahead with it. I mean I don’t even have a business degree. It’s going to be a huge disaster.”

“I’m a mom and a business owner, this is beyond my capacity.”

“This guy ruined my self-esteem and my confidence. I don’t think I’ll ever find love again!”

What do you do when you don’t feel confident at all? Not even a little bit? Sounds really scary right?

To be honest, it can get very scary to not have confidence in you.

Confidence is a tool, it’s an emotion, it’s a feeling that encourages you to achieve anything you want. It fuels you to wake up everyday and kickass at whatever you do.

Despite having self-doubt there’s a part of you that feels 0.01% confident and sometimes that’s enough.

But what happens when it’s totally empty? When there’s no confidence left in you due to any kind of reason. A person, A situation, An event.

Is something like this possible? Yes! It most definitely is possible.

We all go through this zero-confidence level at one or more than one point in our lives.

Pause reading, take a moment to think about the times you felt as if there wasn’t any confidence left in you. Write it down and continue reading.

These events and situations can have a huge impact on our lives leaving us feeling really really low. It’s universal and common.

So how do you bounce back when something like this hits you?

How do you get going despite no confidence at all?

Let me introduce a word called “Borrowed Confidence”

What it really means is that you literally borrow confidence not from yourself but from various other sources to help you get past that feeling of 0% confidence. Let’s dive in!

1. From your Past self – I’ve heard many people say this. They were confident till they had to go through this incident. Which changed everything about them, their confidence and their self-esteem. It’s so normal and happens to most people. But what we can do is go back in time before that incident and to the times when we were confident, borrow that confidence and use it today. It’s going to require some quality, quiet time for you to introspect and think but once you d