“Inhale confidence, Exhale doubt” I chant this many times in a day. And each time I chant I feel this sense of balance and confidence. Most days it’s all good but despite the chants, despite all the positivity, there’s something about fear of criticism that can create a swirl of negativity even before anything happens.
I swear I go through this before each client call, each program launch, before posting on social media and my blog, there’s a fear of being ruthlessly criticized or some rude comment. Criticism comes with the job. I understand that and the worst part of it all is that it stays so very often in our heads like a parasite. One might say we’re delusional too. But haven’t you felt it? Doesn’t matter how good or how bad you are, the fear of criticism really takes a toll on all of us.
Have you ever said, “I want to do this but what if….. (your fear)” and eventually you don’t go ahead with this? Yes? Well, you’re definitely not alone! I’ve been coaching people long enough to know that most people face this issue. There’s no way of getting rid of it. Criticism can sometimes prove to be a great motivating factor and a catalyst to get things done in the right way and meet the deadline.
I’m going to share something with you that I personally try each day and each time I face this fear of criticism (which is multiple times in a day).
You must’ve heard or read this one question that most people are asked to answer each time one talks of fear, “What’s the worse that can happen?” and as bland and cliché as this question seems it’s actually a saviour. In most cases, it can allow you to stay away from negativity and give you the courage to pursue what you’ve got to do without having that feeling of panic!
But let’s make it a bit easier for you.
Each time you face the fear of being criticized for e.g., before you go for a meeting, launch a product, start a new venture, anything at all take a piece of paper and write down all the possible criticism you think that you are afraid of listening. Don’t worry about who will give it just make a list of all the possible criticisms you’re expecting to face. Once you’ve written it read it out loud or in your mind, you’ll notice that all that panic and anxiety would have calmed you down.
Make a list of all the praises you want from others. All that you’ve been dreaming about and all that you are eager to listen to. Write it down. Read it out loud or in your mind. You’ll notice a slight change in your fear and feel more confident about your work/self.
This will take time to get used to but it’s pretty effective. You’ll want to keep in mind that this will help you only after and if you’ve done all your hard work. Finally, you can practice this anytime you need to. I’ll suggest you write it on an actual sheet of paper and a pen rather than your laptop, tablet or phone or any digital device. Writing it down on paper also enables you to visualize everything and helps bringing in a lot of clarity.
Hope you give this a try and see in what ways it helps you. Tell me about your experience by commenting below or e-mailing me.
Do share this with your loved one’s or those who may benefit from this advice.
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