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  • Writer's pictureNikita Vyas

3 points to remember when trying to find an anchor in tough times

It’s a true privilege to have someone one can call their ground, their support, their anchor. It’s not about feeling helpless when seeking that anchor, it’s about great comfort in being vulnerable with someone reliable and compassionate.

They say setbacks are inevitable. They are an intrinsic part of our life. They say in setbacks there’s a valuable lesson. However true, it may be difficult to survive that setback without support. Without someone to hold on to, it can be difficult to beat the hopelessness that seems too quick to befriend us in our worst moments. Your anchor, your support is your most trusted advisor and your biggest cheerleader.

We may find ourselves holding on to things that give us great comfort without realizing it. That song, that place, that book, that movie, that smell, that person, that advice, that hug, that memory. Anything or anyone can be your anchor, your support. Have you had or do you have something like that in your life?

Maybe you didn’t pay too much attention to it or didn’t occur to you before. Maybe it did but you didn’t want to seem too dependent on it. Maybe you assumed it would make you appear and feel weak. And that’s acceptable. It’s okay to want to be self-reliant. It’s okay to not feel weak.

Make Appreciation a ritual – Sometimes we forget to make appreciation a priority. We tend to take that support for granted even if unintentionally. Having a small everyday ritual can help bring awareness of all that acts as our anchor and support when we face something terrible. Appreciation in itself is a great support and anchor. According to research, when we appreciate more, we tend to attract good things as our perception easily shifts to good things happening in our lives.

Let go of self-pity and judgment – Everyone needs an anchor. A support system. It’s okay to seek that support when you really need it. It’s okay to be vulnerable with that support. A lot of times, we tend to judge ourselves when we ask for help or seek comfort from that support system. We go into a phase of self-pity and instead of finding comfort in a healthy way we tend to feel depleted and inferior.

React less to the circumstances – The way we react to our circumstances makes a huge difference in the way we think and feel. Sometimes we’re too rash and harsh in our reactions and therefore instead of seeking comfort, we find ourselves feeling very chaotic and messy. We find ourselves stuck and can’t seem to move. We start ruminating instead of pausing. The less we react to our circumstances the more our anchor can be of use to us. Ideally, our anchor helps us stay calm and pervert us from further inconvenience.

We live in an illusion that we’re completely self-reliant. We forget that we’re constantly receiving support. We perhaps realize it too late when it’s taken away from us. But we always have an anchor to hold on to.


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