If something feels heavy in your hand, just put it down. If you’re carrying way too much burden on your shoulders, just lower it. I’ve heard this many times and often said it many times too. Almost always the question that follows is, “How to put it down?”

Subscribe now

Something as simple as letting it go can be extremely difficult!

The things we get attached to, even if they’re harmful or come across as known misery can feel like our comfort zone as time passes. Something to hold on to that feels safe, can be daunting to part ways with for most of us. If it were easy, we would’ve done it already.

Sometimes it’s just the fear of uncertainty or the fear of having a void instead that allows us to stick with something that feels difficult to let go.

I would often feel very uncomfortable when someone would say, to just let go or just not think about it.

Even though I understand the wisdom behind it, somehow it can be very tough to just let go.

If you’re someone who feels the same way, I understand and I also empathize with you.

When I was trying to let it go, I turned to spiritual tools to help me let go and put down the burden I was holding on to. In practicing these tools, I also realized that most of these weren’t my burdens but the exchange of unnecessary energy that stuck to me the more I allowed it.

I believe in the theory of exchange of energies and how easily we can get influenced when we aren’t aware of who we are or times we aren’t confident about our beliefs and thoughts. There are moments when we do realize that something doesn’t fit in our vibe and space but we still allow it because we’ve become good at hoarding things.

Anger, guilt, frustration, fear, ego, grief, and confusion slowly become closer to us and we find it difficult to let it go. Oftentimes, we attach ourselves to anger or ego so much that we don’t wish to let it go.

Recently, I was asked to let go of my anger towards someone and I just didn’t wish to let that anger go. I felt a deep injustice was done to me and by not letting it go, and holding on to my anger, in my mind it was my way of punishing them. But in complete honesty, that was an illusion and I wasn’t punishing anyone but myself. Holding onto this anger was depleting my energy and I was feeling physically heavy. I would cry just thinking about them and it felt like a part of me was caged and under some control.

I have had similar if not the same, experiences with guilt, grief, confusion, and so on. I felt lost and this was slowly taking over my body. After a while, the feeling of being hurt and in pain felt like an excuse to choose to live a life that felt like known misery.

Spiritual tools have always helped me in ways that are indescribable. For me, these tools have now become a part of me and are easy to tap into any time I feel like I’m losing control or feel like things are tough and I can’t let go.

When I first started using these tools, I couldn’t understand how they would help me. I was too focused on fixing the problem instead of allowing things to flow and unwind and happen in their own time. The results of applying these tools were very slow. Initially, I saw progress in small and simple ways and they didn’t really feel like results that needed to be paid any attention to but once I did. I could see how they helped me. I also realized that such tools because they’re spiritual, have a beautiful way of helping out and thus I also cultivated the art of noticing small progress in a big way.

These tools that I’m about to share are some of the tools I’ve personally used in my sessions with my clients and the more that they’ve applied it, they’ve seen changes in their attachments. These tools are simple and easy to apply, but they also require your faith and belief in the most authentic way.

• Forgiveness – Forgive yourself first, then forgive everyone else, this is from a beautiful book called Tuesdays with Morrie. This sentence was such an eye-opener for me. It can be truly difficult to forgive others but it is even harder to forgive ourselves. When I tried to forgive myself, it was very difficult for me. I experienced shame and a lot of guilt. Somehow It was easier for me to forgive others once I could move past the shame and guilt that I had accumulated for so many years. Initially, the days felt awkward and I couldn’t reason with finding the strength and courage to forgive others. I always kept asking myself, if I did forgive them, what if I’m becoming weaker? But in fact, I felt freer and calmer. Forgiveness has this sense of detachment that I don’t think I can experience in any other way. The kind of detachment that cuts all kinds of ties. I guess you need to try it to actually experience it.

  
  

• Prayer – I remember in school, when I was a child, we had morning prayers during assembly, and we were asked to pray for our well-being and the well-being of others. It was a value that was important for us to embed in our lives. As children, we obviously don’t make much of it. Even as adults we don’t pay any heed to it. I had become rebellious in my teens and started questioning these values very differently. I couldn’t see any point in praying because I started questioning the existence of God and the universe. As an adult, I was given the opportunity to rethink the power of praying and believing in some force out there. As a healer, it became easy for me to believe in the power of praying and understanding how the universe works. Whether you believe in the universe, God, angels, or anything else, I truly believe that when you pray for that force to help you let go, it aids you beautifully.

  
  

• Sending good vibes – Inhale negativity and exhale positivity, this is something I came across first in the Headspace app and I was super confused. I’ve always learned that you inhale positive and exhale negative or unpleasant, but this was the opposite. I didn’t quite grasp the concept and was very hesitant to try it out too. I was then redirected to look at plants to understand the concept. The most selfless way to bring positivity. It was a way to give back. I tried it as often as I could and surprisingly, I felt lighter and happier. Anytime I want to let go of something, I try this. If I can’t inhale the negative for some reason, I try to atleast send out good vibes. Either say words of affirmation or blessings. It took a lot of courage to apply this and it often doesn’t immediately come to me. But I try anytime I feel angry towards something or someone. If I feel that I want to get rid of something or someone, if I’m irritated or feeling annoyed toward a person, place, or situation, I try to send out good vibes and it always works out for me in unexpected ways.

  
  

I truly believe that one or all of these methods have a sense of calmness and the more you try to include them in your life the more you will be able to see things unfold for you. As a healer, I do see the benefits of applying them without hesitation.

As a beginner, it was not at all easy for me because it was so unconventional. The more I allowed myself to have faith in these methods, I realized I not only let go but it didn’t cause me any pain or hurt that I was afraid of experiencing again. I believe that compassion and gentleness can help let go easily and is the best way to let go of anything that causes pain.

I understand that when you’re in the midst of pain it can feel difficult and impossible to make the effort. Especially when you’re experiencing anxiety and hopelessness, but I’d still like to invite you to try these approaches. Even if for a little time and slowly in the beginning.

I can say with certainty that if nothing else, this will give you a lot of peace and you will feel grounded, enough to find a way around the distress and you’ll see a way to let go.

Thank you for reading!

This article was also published on my Substack - (Click here to read)