How to change your narrative by changing your emotions - What is the theme of your life right now?
- Nikita Vyas
- May 22
- 5 min read
The emotions we feel very strongly can provide a lot of insight about what’s happening within and outside of us. Our inner world and our outer world. And I’m of this very strong belief that what goes on in our inner world can manifest as our outer world.
The narrative we believe within, is the narrative that we tend to live in. So, I’ve gotten into the habit of paying attention to the emotion I tend to feel and to introspect about what this emotion is telling me and why. If it’s a trigger, I try to be gentle with it to make sure that it doesn’t play out in my life as my narrative but an opportunity to grow and heal.
Change has always been uncomfortable for me and when I’m met with an unexpected sudden change, it can be very challenging for me to not react or overreact. I tend to take my time but I’m a lot patient with me than I used to be.
As a HSP, I get overwhelmed with intense emotions and can get swept away in feeling low or find myself in a narrative where I have no control over my emotions. It can get worse if I’m surrounded by people who are also going through something intense, I tend to absorb their energies and experience a brutal burnout.
I’ve learned to withdraw from time to time to check in with the narrative I am in currently and process emotions and feelings mindfully.
Your current emotion will become your narrative – There was a time when I knew mostly, only pain. The way I attracted it. The way it would creep into my life. The cause and effect of having pain in my life. And honestly? For a long time, I assumed that all I would have in my life would be tremendous pain, no happiness or peace. It so happened, that I was getting good at being normal with pain too, since it came to me so easily. I don’t think anyone understood what I was going through and I couldn’t explain either. I hated this feeling and felt so helpless because I couldn’t do anything about it. Even talking about this pain only made being in pain way too normal. It’s scary if you think about it. Believing in something so strongly. It took all of my strength to choose happiness instead of pain. But pain had started to become my narrative.
The influence people have over your narrative – The understanding of how emotions can become a theme of my external world made me think about the kind of people I was either drawn to or had started to attract in my world. I started to attract people who also felt strongly toward the similar emotions that I was too focused on. If not consciously then in an unconscious way. This was such a novel experience for me because we don’t always have control over who walks into our lives and who stays or leaves but because I’m a HSP and an introvert, I was always surrounded by just a couple and the upside is that I could pay attention a bit more easily. It of course, isn’t always instant because it takes time to understand the primary emotion that they could be feeling and how it could affect my narrative or help me quickly change it.
The emotions we resist, persists – Its true though right, sometimes what we fear shouldn’t happen in our lives, it all plays out very beautifully exactly that way. If we’re mindful enough, it can be easy for us to understand which emotion/feeling we’ve been trying to avoid that we need to pay our full attention to. For me its pain, for others it could be insecurity, jealousy, anger, feeling of betrayal and hatred, fear, apathy, etc., It would be almost to be joyful all the time or peaceful all the time, we will experience other emotions as well, but when we start to suppress an emotion or feeling, it finds its way into our subconscious mind and our perception starts to get clouded. Because the emotion we have suppressed instead of processing has now started to show up in an unhealthy way.
Repetitive events and situations are a sign to pause and introspect – We often don’t pay attention to what’s happening in our lives and we overlook the events that have been playing on repeat if not in the same way, then with a few changes. The narrative of our lives is based easily on our unresolved wounds and beliefs. I’d like to look at these repetitive situations as a call to pause and see why its repeating. This has a correlation to our beliefs in my opinion, that have been rooted in our emotions and feelings and mindset, that probably need to changed if these events aren’t helping you grow.
Emotions that have the power to shift our narrative – Even though we don’t have control over our emotions most of the times, we can still try to unlearn how to prevent certain emotions that hinder our growth from overpowering us and learn how to welcome emotions that support our growth. When we learn how to process certain emotions, so that they don’t tend to overpower us so much and we can quickly balance ourselves. Emotions and feelings do have the power to change the narrative that keeps playing in our minds. And we have the tools that can help us consciously choose the emotions and feelings we’d like to be in alignment with.
The theme and narrative of our lives keep shifting and our stories can be seasonal. By being mindful of the narrative we write every day, we can make a difference in our wellbeing and mindset.
We may not be able to be in control of our emotions and narratives all the time but it helps to pause and constantly check in with ourselves. Certain tools such as mindfulness practices, visualization, affirmation, therapy, spiritual work somatic therapy, energy work, coaching can help us choose the narrative we wish to write and the emotions we want to stay with.
Reflection Questions -
Emotions that I am most drawn to in my life usually
Emotions that help me connect with other people
Emotions that terrify me
Events that feel repetitive
The emotions I want to feel
The emotions/feelings that seem impossible in my life
If I had an option to change the way my life was written, how would I want it?
The feelings that are a part of me and why they’re so important to me
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Thank you!
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