Allow it to unfold - Are you getting in your own way? - An activity to try

When there’s an important decision to be made or when there’s a period of stagnation, we feel this pit in our stomach. We want things to just happen and get it over with. The long hours, days, and even months of waiting can be painful, to say the least. Then there’s so much confusion that starts to go on in a loop in our minds.

Lately, I’ve been feeling the same about my life and the events that are playing out in my life haven’t been pleasant but excruciatingly troublesome and exhausting. When something like this happens, I turn to the wisdom of Tarot cards just to understand what it all means. Cards have always helped me understand and make sense of things. I believe in the science of signs and symbols.

I did that this time as well.

This time the cards and signs had a clear message for me. They wanted me to be patient and allow things to unfold. The more this message started to play in my mind the more anxious I felt.

Allow things to unfold? It’s easier said than done, isn’t it?

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But if I’m being completely honest, I do see the wisdom in this philosophy and quite interestingly, it was my approach to how I read cards that made me think in that perspective.

When I read cards, things are foggy at first. Since I don’t predict, I rely only on what the cards tell me regarding the mindsets and beliefs in that present moment. This means that a lot is under the surface that needs to come up. And I often tell myself, I need to allow things to unfold for things to make sense. Interesting, isn’t it?

We live in a world where we either force things to happen or focus a lot on how we want things to happen, instead of simply living our lives and letting things happen the way they need to.

I understand the conflict. It took me a long time to understand this tug between having a dream and letting go in order for it to happen. In my experience, patience and compassion and forgiveness are key components.

When will this happen?

How long do I have to wait?

Why can’t it just happen the minute I wish it?

Why do I go back and forth?

When you just think about it, they’re such simple questions. But they can change the course of how we think and attract.

This is where most of us, including me seem to lack. We get in our own way. We hasten and we jump the gun before anything beautiful can unfold in our lives.

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I remember when I was seeking counsel and guidance from the cards, I was asked to stay optimistic and not give in to anything that felt like backing away. It seemed as though I was very close to achieving my dream and giving in to my impatience would simply ruin all that life was going to offer.

I remember when that was said to me, it didn’t feel like such a big deal. Sure, I could wait easily. Especially if I’m so close, sure it won’t be tough.

But obviously, it was tough. It was harder than I had ever imagined because now my focus wasn’t on enjoying the journey but just making sure this happens. I had started to force things to happen and when it didn’t happen the way I wanted I became sad and didn’t enjoy the simple moments of joy and peace that life was offering.

I slowly began to realize that by forcing it to happen, I was distancing myself from my dream even more. The signs began to show up everywhere.

Slow down.

Let it unfold.

Breathe.

it's all good.

It’s all taken care of.

Have faith.

Stay in the moment.

These were signs that I was somehow ignoring because I couldn’t understand why they were showing up in the first place. It was only when I started to feel that impatience and anxiety in my body that I realized and noticed the signs. ‘Let it unfold’ was almost everywhere. And also, in some capacity, it meant being a little more patient and being in the present moment.

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I was getting in my own way by doubting the universe and my own faith in what I desired. I was getting in the way of my own dream. And this thought that I could be getting in my own way was extremely terrifying.

I could feel stiffness in the back of my neck and my shoulders. I could feel uneasiness in my actions and in my body. I could feel my thoughts racing and I found myself overthinking so much that caused tiredness in me.

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When I work with clients and when they pour all their overflowing thoughts onto me, I can see their shoulders relax and they experience a sense of calm. I’ve often been complimented for my sessions to be equivalent to meditation sessions. But honestly what I ask them to do is to tell me about their fears and limiting beliefs. It’s a brave thing to do to acknowledge the fear they have. In a way, our fears also get in the way of our dreams and the universe.

No matter what control or power we may have, some force larger than us is at play here. And often times I’ve believed that when I focus on all that I can control instead of what I cannot, that force does the rest of the work for me.

So, I’d like to leave you with this question that I’d like to invite you to journal anytime you read this –

What are the things you can control v/s what are the things you can’t control?

Activity to try -

Make two columns on a page and on the left write down the things you can’t control and, on the right, make a list of things you can control. Pause to see how you feel and try to see where your focus is right now. Is it on the left side or the right?

Ponder a bit on how can you try to move your focus more on the things you can control. What are the necessary steps that you may need to take in order to be more mindful? Observe the signs around you. What are they trying to tell you?

Thank you for reading!

This article was also published on my Substack - (click here to read)