That could be a clue - An essay on Jealousy with 7 Journal prompts
- Nikita Vyas
- May 25
- 4 min read
Jealousy and envy can put us in a really bad place. And at times we wonder why good things just don’t seem to happen to us. Why do we struggle so much while others have it so easy and why is it that life feels so challenging for us? It’s really easy to feel bogged down by such emotions and feelings. Such feelings can also make us feel guilty especially when we don’t really understand why we feel the way we do.
Jealousy and envy in my opinion indicate a void in our life. Something that others have and we don’t. I read somewhere that such emotions are a clue, an indication that we need to work towards. It’s a call to look within. An indication that we need to start paying deeper and more serious attention to our desires and needs.
Whenever I’m doing a reading or even coaching and cards of envy or jealousy show up, almost immediately there is an acknowledgment of how they’ve been thinking about working on something for a while and how they feel jealous that someone else got to that dream before they did. They go on talking about how others find it so easy to go after something and they simply can’t.
In my opinion, it’s a clue. This is an indication that they’ve been ignoring something within themselves and they need to pay attention to that limitation and take necessary steps towards that.
I had given up reading cards professionally due to my internal conflict and dilemma but each time I would see other readers, I would feel this pang of jealousy and it never made sense to me. I often ignored it and didn’t acknowledge my own feelings towards this. But it would happen each time.
After a while the envy and jealousy built up way too much in my mind and I had to pay attention to it. I had to give myself some time to understand it. I had to ask myself why was I feeling this kind of jealousy when it was my decision to not continue it professionally.
As it turns out, my heart was still in it and I felt this strong calling to restart it. I slowly realized with a little meditation and journaling that I enjoyed reading cards and it also helped me fulfill my purpose of helping and guiding others. I strongly believed in the guidance of the cards and the answers I would receive through them. My jealousy was a clue that I needed to start reading cards again without any hesitation or fear.
The more I paid attention to this feeling I started seeing signs that indicated that I was on the right path. And I haven’t looked back since. Whenever I feel jealousy or envy, I pause to ask myself why I feel this way. What is this feeling of jealousy trying to tell me? What does my heart desire?
It’s also amazing to note that because we are constantly overthinking and rushing or surrounded by a lot of noise, we don’t pay attention to our own desires. Life usually tends to get in the way and we don’t pause to see what’s going on within our minds and hearts.
When my clients in my coaching program or tarot reading sessions often tell me how other people seem to be living their dream and the comparison is gnawing at them, I often ask them this question, have you ever wondered why someone else is actually living the dream you’ve been desiring for a long time? On the surface level, it feels like comparing or envy but perhaps it’s an indication that you need to pay attention to this desire. Maybe you’re now ready to live it too?
When I had just quit my job and I was feeling lost, everywhere I looked, I saw entrepreneurs doing their own thing. That freedom of time and actually following their passion made me feel extremely jealous. I remember having spent days crying and feeling so left behind. I always had this dream of starting my own practice, working with people in the approach that I wanted. That dream always felt a bit far behind. Something would always stop me. I disliked the kind of jealousy and envy I was feeling and I started to feel helpless.
Until one day I came across this analogy that perhaps jealousy is a clue and an indication that maybe I’m ready. It was a call to look in that direction. Maybe I’m ready!
And I certainly was, I took small scary steps toward my own Coaching and Counselling program and it only got better every step of the way.
I think this is a great way to give ourselves a minute to understand our own desires and give our desires the importance they deserve. It’s a chance we can give ourselves and find the courage to at least sit with this desire.
Envy and jealousy can be inspiring allies if we allow the helplessness and guilt to pass. If we allow ourselves to reframe the perspective - envy, and jealousy can also feel like inspiration.
Have you thought of it this way? Has there been a time when you felt envious of something and turned it into an inspiration?
I’d like you to give this a try the next time you feel envious or jealous of something or someone.
Ask yourself -
Why is this affecting you so much?
What could this feeling of envy and jealousy mean for you at this stage in your life?
What void is this feeling reminding you of?
Is this something you’d like to work on?
What are the steps you can take toward this feeling?
What’s the first simple step you need to take?
What are the limiting beliefs that are getting in the way?
Hope this shift in perspective helps you the next time you experience jealousy or envy.
Thank you for reading!
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